كتاب البر والصلة والآداب
45
The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship
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Chapter: The Virtue Of One Who Controls Himself At Times Of Anger, And What Takes Away Anger
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باب فَضْلِ مَنْ يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ وَبِأَىِّ شَىْءٍ يَذْهَبُ الْغَضَبُ ‏‏

Abdullah b. Mas'ud reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:

Whom do you count as" Raqub" amongst you? They (his Companions) said: One who has no children (the children are born unto him but they do not survive). Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: He is not a Raqub but Raqub is one who does not find his child as the forerunner (in Paradise). He then said: Whom do you count as a wrestler amongst you? We said: He who wrestles with persons. He said: No, it is not he but one who controls himself when in a fit of rage.
حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، وَعُثْمَانُ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، - وَاللَّفْظُ لِقُتَيْبَةَ - قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ التَّيْمِيِّ، عَنِ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ سُوَيْدٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ مَا تَعُدُّونَ الرَّقُوبَ فِيكُمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ قُلْنَا الَّذِي لاَ يُولَدُ لَهُ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ لَيْسَ ذَاكَ بِالرَّقُوبِ وَلَكِنَّهُ الرَّجُلُ الَّذِي لَمْ يُقَدِّمْ مِنْ وَلَدِهِ شَيْئًا ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ فَمَا تَعُدُّونَ الصُّرَعَةَ فِيكُمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ قُلْنَا الَّذِي لاَ يَصْرَعُهُ الرِّجَالُ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ لَيْسَ بِذَلِكَ وَلَكِنَّهُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
Reference : Sahih Muslim 2608 a
In-book reference : Book 45, Hadith 138
USC-MSA web (English) reference : Book 32, Hadith 6311
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